When I attended graduate school in England the year after 9/11, I lived in an international dorm with students from Germany, Japan, Canada, Sweden and even Iraq. At some point in history, my country had been at war with many of theirs. I heard the most sustained earful of anti-Americanism I ever hope to endure over those 12 months, even though their wrath was directed at my nation's leaders, not at me.
Midway through the year, a student moved out and the Libyan took the vacant room. She and I became fast, and unlikely, friends. She had flown to England to study accounting, and as a creative writing master's degree candidate, I proved a natural proofreader for her essays.
The new flatmate liked me, and she made no effort to hide that. When the proofreading sessions were done, she cooked meals for me, asked to listen to my CDs, taught me Arabic words and clapped when I remembered them.
I was the first American she had ever met. I was also the first one she hadn't feared and despised. In 1986, she woke in the night to the sound of the Reagan administration's bombing of Libya, and the experience, coupled with the steady stream of propaganda she heard in school and the media, led her to grow up viewing Americans as savage imperialists.
My flatmate told me that until she met me, she thought every American was like George W. Bush. To her, that was the most brutal insult of all. More than once, she told me she wanted to visit me in America, but insisted that the government would kill or imprison her for being a Muslim once she stepped off the plane.